Every day, at least once per day, list aloud everyone you love, in the order that you love them. If, during the remainder of the day, or even during the act of listing, the order in which you love those people shifts, stop everything, stop everyone, at once. Recite again the list reordered, top to bottom, including every name. Recite your list especially when among immediate family, or with close friends, or with small cohorts of colleagues. Let everyone know where they stand.